Marriage Mediation – Making Your Marriage Happier and Healthier
Many couples live with enduring patterns of behavior that make one or both parties unhappy. As explained in Crucial Conversations, when you have a problem like that, you have three choices:
- Avoid discussing the issue,
- Face the issue and handle the conversation poorly, or
- Face the issue and handle the conversation well.
The first two options lead to ongoing frustration and dissatisfaction in the relationship. Often the negative feelings you are trying to suppress sneak out in ugly, destructive ways. Or you keep them bottled up until one day they explode. Clearly, the third option is preferable. Happily, facing issues and having constructive, problem-solving conversations about them is something that most couples can learn to do. People can learn to handle crucial conversations constructively on their own. This is not about digging into your childhood to explore why you feel the way you do. It is not psychotherapy. It is looking at what matters to each of you and why and how you might each change your behavior so that both of you will have a happier, healthier relationship.
While you are still learning to handle crucial conversations, a mediator can help you discuss the things that are hard to talk about and help you figure out what will improve or even save your marriage.
For a free consultation about whether family mediation would be helpful for your family, contact Dr. Virginia Colin at mediatorQ@gmail.com or 703.864.2101.