Valentine’s Day after Separation or Divorce woodpecker My standard holiday advice: Plan something that you will look forward to and enjoy doing on the holiday. Don’t sit home crying over the absence of your ex. Get together with friends for...
Stress Management During Divorce The process of getting divorced is extremely stressful for many people. They worry about their kids; they may not have enough money; they suddenly have to make major changes in their lives; they may be riding...
Frustrations of a Family Mediator baby’s face 1. I cannot fix everything for everybody. People have the personalities, anxieties, hostilities, and blind spots that they have, and I cannot always get them to think and speak from the best parts...
Divorce and Holidays Thanksgiving turkey For many, Thanksgiving is a happy family gathering time. For others, it is a day when you have to see your dysfunctional relatives. For others, including divorced parents whose children will be with their...
Tips for Negotiating Successfully, Part 2 You can find Part 1, with the first ten tips, on this page. 11. Begin by asking for more than you want. This is my least favorite advice to give. It grates against my...
Tips for Negotiating Successfully, Part 1 Think and Negotiate At work, in your neighborhood, and in your family, you may from time to time run into a dispute that matters. You may want to negotiate with the other party about...
Healing During and After Divorce single parents support group Divorce often involves riding an emotional roller coaster: fear, anger, relief, denial, grief, exhilaration, guilt, blame, despair, anxiety, and, one hopes, belief in your ability to heal and build a good...
Things I Learned Recently from a Judge This includes comments about adultery, custody, spousal support, absentee parents, counseling, spying on your partner’s email, and property distribution. Adultery may have almost no effect on a judge’s decisions about custody and visitation....
Can You Afford to Get Divorced? A happy marriage is wonderful. Unfortunately, some marriages just don’t work out. A surprising number are secretly abusive. Sometimes people just grow apart and cannot find their way to get back together. If they...
A Quick Do-It-Yourself Divorce I just heard from a client I worked with in June. She and her husband were in a very difficult situation. They owed much more than their house was worth, they could not sell the house...