People need to know about the huge difference between real, ethical, early or middle or late mediation and the service that groups of retired judges offer, which they erroneously call mediation. What they do is NOT mediation. Mislabelling the service they provide confuses the public. That’s bad, because most divorcing couples would benefit greatly from […]

by Virginia L Colin, Ph.D. During the current covid pandemic, some parents who intended to part ways soon must postpone their separation. Income has decreased a lot, so supporting two households is suddenly not possible. Everyone in the family is likely to be feeling the stress. Being trapped in a house with someone you intend

by guest author Bill Eddy Rather than talking to the kids about a “high-conflict” co-parent (and you should never use that term around the children), talk about “four big skills for life.” These skills are: • flexible thinking • managing emotions • moderate behaviors • checking ourselves to see if we’re using these skills regularly

by guest author Sonia Tagliareni Divorce is a very complicated and multi-dimensional process for a family to go through, especially when the family has teenage children. It leaves teenagers in a place of confusion, embarrassment, and, often, anger. A survey carried out in 2005 showed that teenagers have a rough time adjusting even if the

by guest author Madison Jones   Note: This article is about meditation, with two T’s, not mediation, with one T. Meditation has many benefits, including helping you clear your head, feel more relaxed, improve your focus, and sleep better. In addition a benefit that you may not have heard of before is how it can

  For many separated, divorced, or never-married parents, this is not easy. Ellen Kellner, author of The Pro-Child Way®: Parenting with an Ex, focuses on our greater spiritual existence and how it applies to fostering what all children need – love, patience, kindness, consistency, and consideration. Good parenting skills, she says, can be maintained even when marital status

  The process of getting divorced is extremely stressful for many people. They worry about their kids; they may not have enough money; they suddenly have to make major changes in their lives; they may be riding a roller coaster of anxiety, anger, grief, joy about liberating themselves from a miserable relationship, and/or guilt about

You can find Part 1, with the first ten tips, on this page. 11. Begin by asking for more than you want. This is my least favorite advice to give. It grates against my Quaker respect for honesty and integrity. Nevertheless, it often happens that successful negotiations require compromise. If you want $500 a month and

  I just heard from a client I worked with in June.  She and her husband were in a very difficult situation.  They owed much more than their house was worth, they could not sell the house for a couple of years because of a complication in the way they bought it, there was very